I'm very sick. 72 years old. I thinking I'm losing my mind. My dead friend told me it's going to be okay. I could feel him. There is more…I don't know what but more.
07.06.2025 10:56
I have a different perspective than the others who have responded. Idk anything about your illness or your prognosis so please bear that in mind when thinking about what I'm saying first here.
My hope for you is that you will take this as being the attempt to comfort you that I believe it is, don't doubt it or yourself but be open to the gesture of love and support that is intended.
I don't mean to make this about me, i just want you to understand that although it's apparently very common to receive contact with deceased loved ones around the time of a person's imminent passing, by no means does such a contact always mean that you're dying and by NO means does it indicate that you're crazy.
Take care of yourself.
I've had these experiences myself and I'm still here, so by no means am I trying to say that your feeling and/or seeing your friend is an indication that you're dying-although that is common, it's not necessarily why you're seeing or feeling your friend. I'm just saying that it's generally (by my experience, which is all I have to go on) during times of challenges and not necessarily always for you but sometimes for a shared love one. The one I've heard from the most BY FAR is my husband and only once was there a message pertaining to me-and it was a hell of a message, very unexpected and comforting. Every other time it was about our son, and every single time I found our son struggling in some way that I had no idea about. My mom, who is the other person very close to my son, would hear from my husband sometimes during the same time I did. These visits were not about any of us dying, they were always a heads up, drop what you are doing and check on him he's not ok. I never failed to find him in a tough struggle. One time it was between 2–3 am and I thought I was crazy, waking out of a sound sleep and texting him at that hour, but it was such a strong drive to contact him RIGHT NOW and discuss some peculiar little inconsequential incident that had happened when he was just learning to talk-it was a weird uneventful incident many years forgotten but the pull to write him at 2:30 am and share this weird little memory was overwhelming so, feeling very puzzled and awkward, i just went with it. I was stunned to get an immediate response from my son, who was sitting alone in the wee hours very upset wondering if his dad knew that he had just become a father himself-the story, while uneventful, was about a very sweet moment between my son and his dad, (without going into details I will add that it was a situation I had stumbled upon accidentally that I had never even told his dad that I had discovered-it was an incident I overheard on his baby monitor-they were upstairs and never heard me pop in on my way to a meeting, I overheard this and never told him that I had so we had never even discussed this and I had forgotten about this story decades ago) My son responded 30 seconds after I sent this message "how did you know that I was just sitting here crying and wondering if Dad knew that I have a new baby?". Sometimes the things that have come out of my mouth were completely unplanned and unexpected-it may sound strange but they didn't come from me and they always had meaning for my son. That 2;30 am story was one of those things. I'm no medium and there are maybe 5–6 people and 3 pets this has happened with-and I'm still here, so by no means am I trying to imply that you're dying.
My advice doesn't have much to do with reading the Bible, although I had a priest baptize my mom (something she had always wanted so this wasn't forced on her ) and give her last rites, and the hospice chaplain came and prayed with her as well, so I'm not anti-religion, she passed with her rosary in her hand so if this is your belief system and you find it comforting, then definitely embrace it. Regardless of that, I urge you to trust your instincts about feeling your friend around you. I worked as a hospice volunteer for several years and I'm telling you that this isn't uncommon for sane lucid people to experience .
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I just spent over the last year watching (and taking care of) my mother who had stage 4 cancer. She went through a lot of different stages. The last stage she went through, she started talking about seeing people who had passed, sometimes talking directly to them. Other times just seeing them. She carried on a completely lucid conversation with anybody until her last word so she wasn't cognitively impaired or overly medicated, her mind was very clear . Hospice gives out a book to every caregiver "your loved one may very likely start talking to or about people who have passed as if they're there. Do not assume that this person is hallucinating because chances are, they're not." I admit that I was surprised by the support for this mindset as I don't find it common. Some of what my mom has shared were dreams and some were more "this is what I saw and/or heard ".. My son's wife just lost her own mother a few weeks ago and her mom started making room on her bed for her dog, who had passed 5 years before, and she called him by name. She wasn't a woman who was into new age/psychic stuff and was not particularly religious so that seemed very out of character for her. She passed young enough that this dog might have been the only soul on the other side that she knew. I know only that this dog was very dear to her.